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[转]为何很多人成了QQ隐身族
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我刚上线,QQ对话框里就跳出来一段话:“半年了都不见你上网?”是我的一位大学同学,我写了一行字过去:“其实我每天都在线,不过隐身而已.”
很 快,QQ上一个灰色的头像就动了起来,原来我这个同学也在隐身,他说:“其实也没有什么事.”然后他的头像继续灰色,我们谁也没有继续聊天,就这样归于沉默.
刚拥有QQ的时候,我在图书馆、网吧,凡是能上网的地方,第一件事就是先上QQ,然后让那只企鹅头像挂在电脑右上角.很快,好友名单中的头像就次第亮了起来,唧唧地叫个不停.但那已经是很多年前的事情了,那时候,所谓的上网,其实就是QQ聊天,不管是熟悉的朋友,还是陌生人,都在闲聊些有用无用的废话.
现在我每天都挂QQ,里面几十个好友都是我的同学和朋友,不过大多数情况下头像都是灰色的.偶尔,我随便写几个字过去,那边顷刻就有回音,原来,几乎每个人都在线,却都不约而同地选择了隐身.
我曾经问过一个朋友为什么一直隐身,朋友淡淡地回了一句:“无话可说.”是啊,说什么呢?大家都已经工作多年,已经不会像刚工作时那样喜欢显摆,喜欢抱怨,岁月就像茧子,将心灵厚厚包裹.我们已经习惯不轻易向别人敞开心扉,不管是快乐,还是郁闷.即使在QQ上偶尔寒暄,可是寒暄过后更沉默.有事吗,大家都是一个电话打过去直接聊 ,还有谁在电脑上嘀嗒嘀嗒地敲打半天?
还有一个原因,你一旦上线,那些亮着头像的你的朋友,你不去问候一声吗?QQ毕竟不像手机和电话,有了来电再去接,你明明看见朋友和同事在线,你能不寒暄一下吗?就好像我们走在街上打个照面会问一声“吃了吗”一样.其实我们很忙,或许你的寒暄会让朋友感觉你正无聊,你正寂寞,你需要找人聊天,找人安慰.那边的信息会一条条跳出来,让你疲于应付,或许,那边的朋友和你一样也是在疲于应付.所以,干脆隐身吧,那会让我们少了很多道义上的负担.
隐身的人越来越多,不管你拥有几个QQ还是MSN,许多人统统选择了隐身.很多时候QQ已经变成了一种可有可无的工具,我们并不指望能从中得到什么,不管谁的名片上,QQ号都是可怜地呆在最下角.
但是,没有人会抛弃QQ,很多人上班的第一件事,就是将QQ挂上,我们的好友名单常常灰暗一片,却很少有人将他们删掉.也许,我们在乎的只是一种感觉,一种在偌大的城市里依然有自己熟悉的人的感觉,呆在QQ上,我们就似乎还呆在一种温暖和熟悉的群体里.虽然彼此都隐身,但都在关注着对方,当你有所需求,登录的上线提示就会从右下角一直顶到屏幕的顶端,在钢筋水泥的城市,在灰暗的QQ头像后面,依然隐藏着可以释怀的温暖和信任.
News Source: Yangcheng Evening News
I just went online, and a message popped up in the QQ dialog box: "Haven't seen you online for half a year?" It was a college classmate of mine. I typed a line: "Actually, I'm online every day, just invisible."
很快, QQ上一个灰色的头像就动了起来,原来我这个同学也在隐身,他说: "其实也没有什么事."然后他的头像继续灰色,我们谁也没有继续聊天,就这样归于沉默.
Soon, a gray avatar on QQ started moving. It turned out my classmate was also invisible. He said, "Actually, there's nothing really." Then his avatar went back to gray, and neither of us continued chatting, just falling into silence.
When I first got QQ, I would, in the library, internet cafes, and any place where I could go online, the first thing I did was go on QQ, then let that penguin avatar hang in the top right corner of the computer.很快,好友名单中的头像就次第亮了起来,唧唧地叫个不停. But that was a long time ago. Back then, surfing the internet basically meant chatting on QQ. Whether it was familiar friends or strangers, we would chat about useful or useless nonsense.
Now I hang on QQ every day. There are dozens of friends in it, all my classmates and friends. But most of the time, their avatars are gray. Occasionally, I just type a few words, and there's an immediate response on the other end. It turns out almost everyone is online, but they all unconsciously choose to be invisible.
I once asked a friend why he was always invisible. The friend淡淡地 replied, "No words to say." Yeah, what to say? Everyone has been working for many years. They don't like to show off or complain like when they first started working. Time is like a cocoon, thickly wrapping the heart. We've gotten used to not easily opening our hearts to others, whether it's happiness or depression. Even if we occasionally exchange greetings on QQ, but after the greetings, it's even more silent. If there's something, everyone just makes a phone call and chats directly. Who would type away on the computer for a long time?
Another reason: once you go online, do you not greet those friends whose avatars are lit? QQ isn't like a phone where you answer when there's an incoming call. You clearly see friends and colleagues online, can you not greet them? It's like when we meet on the street and ask "Have you eaten?" Actually, we're busy. Maybe your greeting would make the friend feel you're bored, you're lonely, you need someone to chat and comfort. Messages would pop up one after another, making you deal with them reluctantly. Maybe the friend on the other end is also dealing with it reluctantly. So, just be invisible. That way, we have fewer moral burdens.
More and more people are invisible. Whether you have several QQs or MSNs, many people all choose to be invisible. Many times, QQ has become a tool that's dispensable. We don't expect to get anything from it. On whoever's business card, the QQ number pitifully stays at the bottom.
But no one abandons QQ. Many people's first thing when they go to work is to hang QQ. Our friend list is often gray, but few people delete them. Maybe, we care only about a feeling, a feeling that there are still familiar people in this big city. Staying on QQ, we seem to still be in a warm and familiar group. Although everyone is invisible, we're all paying attention to each other. When you have a need, the online notification from logging in will pop up from the bottom right corner to the top of the screen. In the concrete city, behind the gray QQ avatars, there's still hidden relievable warmth and trust.
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