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Today I found out she wasn't interested in me.
Sigh, how come I still haven't met someone who knows quality when she sees it!?

Didn't I already see in the ad "mission accomplished, give me a Kiss!"? Why are you still looking for "someone who knows quality"!? ^_^

The following is quoted from tdj's post at 2004-1-7 18:41:46:
Didn't I already see in the ad "mission accomplished, give me a Kiss! "? Why are you still looking for "someone who knows quality"!? ^_^

Sheesh, that's just been my dream all along. You know? A dream. Hehe...

Blind date??
Scary scary, fun fun

The following is quoted from ko20010214's post at 2004-1-7 21:32:03:

The following is quoted from tdj's post at 2004-1-7 18:41:46:
Didn't I already see in the ad "mission accomplished, give me a Kiss! "? Why are you still looking for "someone who knows quality"!? ^_^

Sheesh, that's just been my dream all along. You know? A dream. Hehe...

Now I'm the one who's dizzy—do you even dream in broad daylight???

You can't just leave it at "she wasn't interested in you." At the very least you should find out what exactly she was dissatisfied with. Otherwise wasn't that trip for nothing?
As far as I know, at least KO writes very well.

Ko, I think it's probably that she just doesn't know how good you are yet..............

Women fear marrying the wrong man; smart girls all know they have to be cautious and careful. If Fang Shao is a bit conceited about his own talent and doesn't pay much attention to his words and behavior, that can also put the other person off.
There's a Western saying among women: "By the time I discover a man can be a good husband, he is already a good husband." For Chinese women, marriage is even more like a huge gamble, so they have to bet carefully.
Once you understand this, Fang Shao should know what to do, right?

Blind dates make me think of parent-arranged marriage!

Hehe, Kuangxiang is still young. This is completely different from an arranged marriage. An arranged marriage is when your parents bring you home a wife and you just go through the formalities. An introduction is just giving you a chance to get to know a girl; whether it works out is up to you two to talk about.

The following is quoted from mys's post at 2004-1-8 14:45:54:
If Fang Shao is a bit conceited about his own talent and doesn't pay much attention to his words and behavior, that can also put the other person off.

I... am very dull and awkward. I'm not very good at talking.
It's impossible for me to be conceited and careless about my words and behavior.
Those aren't the reasons.
And I already know where the problem is.
Unless ads actually work,
if I drink Gao Le Gao every day, wear elevator shoes, stick on height-increasing pads, take height-increasing medicine,
do 10,000 pull-ups in the daytime, and at night don't sleep on the bed but hang upside down from the beam the whole time,
then maybe after two years I can barely pass.
Hehe...

Is it your height and not being good with words? Those aren't really major problems.
Height of course can't be changed, but you can look for a petite girl. Actually girls like that are the most feminine. Find one who's petite and just a little plump—when you hold her, that feeling is really... anyway, what you're looking for is a wife, not a model.
Fang Shao's talent is above mine. Being poor with words is probably just from lack of habit, or maybe some interference from low self-esteem. Let me give you a few suggestions:
① Don't pursue girls you already know at first; instead, have someone introduce you. The advantage is that if it doesn't work out, you probably won't run into each other often afterward, so it won't be too awkward... and the other side also comes prepared, and is often a fairly traditional girl. Those points are all very good.
② First go in with the attitude of making ordinary friends, and leave more time for both sides to slowly consider whether to develop things further. The first time you meet, you must speak first. Mostly talk about work, profession, study experience, and other not-too-personal topics. Take the opportunity to understand her attitude toward work and life. The important thing is that once you notice her good points, immediately show your appreciation. At the end, ask for her phone number, and ask roughly when she'd be free. If you can still ask her out next time and she agrees, that means she at least doesn't dislike you, and there's a chance to develop things further.
③ Don't start by giving flowers and saying "I love you." That's the sort of thing Qiong Yao uses to fool little girls. Doing that before even an ordinary friendship has been established amounts to being rash, and most smart girls will reject it outright. As for those two things, I've never done them either.
④ When you're just starting to meet, generally pick a place with lots of people and good lighting. Best if you can talk while eating. The atmosphere is more relaxed and you can understand more. Only after you're familiar with each other can you really talk about love.
Just experience talking, don't laugh, because my situation used to be pretty similar to yours.

Looks like moderator mys really does have a lot of experience.

You're all experts in love! ^_^

Arranged marriage