Learn to be silent. Keep it simple.
Sometimes, you are misunderstood, and you don't want to argue, so you choose silence. Not everyone has to understand you, so you think there's no need to shout to the whole world. But there are times when you are misunderstood by the one you love the most, and you are too sad to argue, so you can only choose silence. The whole world can not understand you, but he should understand. If he really can't understand, what else is there to say? There are often moments in life where even Schubert is speechless. After all, not all right and wrong can be clearly listed, and there may not be really right and wrong. Then, if you don't want to talk, just don't. When it's useless to say more, maybe silence is the best explanation.
At least be calm...
When you are at the bottom of your life, all the people around you tell you: be strong and be happy. Being strong is absolutely necessary, but happy? In this case, it's probably too hard for you. After all, who can be happy when they are beaten black and blue? But at least you can be calm. Calmly look at this matter, calmly handle other things that need to be dealt with. Calm, neither happy nor unhappy.
Learn to bend over...
This will be an unexpected gain. You have a disagreement with others and even a verbal conflict, so you are unhappy because you think it's all malicious. Don't worry about it anymore. Go home and mop the floor. Pick up a rag, bend over, kneel down, and wipe every corner of the floor in front of you back and forth. Then rethink every word you said in that conflict. Now, do you find that you actually have something wrong? Are you gradually calming down? Sometimes you have to learn to bend over because this action can make you humble. While working your body, you also clean up your mood. Moreover, you also have a clean floor. This is your second gain.
Don't think about if...
At the beginning, you said that life is a long road with infinite forks, always making choices. If it's just choosing fried noodles or fried rice, the impact is not great, but choosing what department to study, what job to do, whether to get married or not, whether to have children or not, each choice has a far-reaching impact, and different choices will certainly create completely different lives. You also said that the unendurable feeling in life is that there is no chance to start over in life. If it were like this at the beginning, it wouldn't be like this now... This kind of self-murmuring full of regret, don't say more. The choice at each fork actually has no real good or bad. As long as you regard life as your own unique creation, you won't frequently look back and think about making a different choice at the beginning.
Work hard...
No matter whether it succeeds or not, at least it was once beautiful. Walking in the woods, you see a vine attached to a tree trunk, with softness and firmness interwoven, and you are moved by this quiet and beautiful scene. Let happiness and belonging stop here. You think. I don't know what kind of wind and rain will break in the future? Maybe the vine will break, the tree will fall, maybe the sky will be desolate, and the earth will be old. You think again. Then, please stop time at this moment. Stopping time is eternity. If there is this quiet and beautiful moment in eternity, the various disasters that may be encountered in the future have been comforted and rewarded.
Keep it simple...
Because you think too much, you often complicate your life. Obviously, you are living in the present, but you always keep thinking about the past and worrying about the future; sticking to carrying the past, future and present together, your life is naturally messy. And simplicity is a state of grace. Simply feel the change of the weather with your skin, simply taste the fragrance of grass after rain with your nose, simply take in the distant and near scenery with your eyes like a picture. Simply live in the present. And the present actually has no right or wrong. Since there is no right or wrong, there is no need to think; since there is no true or false, there is no need to keep thinking and worrying. No right or wrong, isn't it like a dream? Yes, just simply treat your life as a dream to carry out.
Occasionally "vulgar"...
After eating too much healthy food, you also want to nibble on duck tongue and salt酥 chicken from time to time. After seeing too many master dramas, you also want to take a look at TV dramas with endless slaps and tears. After listening to too much classical music, you also want to sing popular songs that love him for a hundred years and hate him for ten thousand years. You know that healthy food is meaningful for a healthy stomach and intestines, master dramas are meaningful for cultivating temperament, and classical music is meaningful for enhancing spirituality, but sometimes you don't really want to live so meaningfully all the time. Life doesn't need to tie yourself so tight. Occasional small indulgence is moral. Being full of spirit may be close to an adult, but occasional vulgarity will be more approachable.
Control your emotions, don't waste them...
Today you are unhappy because someone hurt you with words. You don't like quarreling, so you leave; but you just left that place, but didn't leave the situation hurt by that person, so you get angrier and angrier. The angrier you are, the less energy you have to pay attention to other things. Many events that should be done, thought about and handled with more care are neglected, ignored and omitted in your random upset. Because you are only angry with all your heart. Making a fuss about emotions is a waste of yourself, and a very bad waste. After all, getting angry also takes effort, and getting angry must damage vitality. So, smart as you are, don't let emotions control you. Before you are about to get angry again, you might as well remind yourself softly: "Don't waste it."
Seize the best opportunity and never miss it...
You once bought a very favorite dress but didn't have the heart to wear it, and solemnly供奉 it in the wardrobe; after a long time, when you saw it again, you found that it was out of style. So you missed it like this. You once bought a beautiful cake but didn't have the heart to eat it, and solemnly供奉 it in the refrigerator; after a long time, when you saw it again, you found that it was expired. So you missed it like this. The dress that wasn't worn at the time you liked it the most, the cake that wasn't tasted at the most delicious time, just like the thing that wasn't done at the time you most wanted to do, are all regrets. Life also has a shelf life, and things you want to do should be done as soon as possible. If you just solemnly供奉 your wish in your heart but never implement it, the only result is to miss it, just like the out-of-style dress and the expired cake.
Occasional deviation from the track...
Once you took a train to go to place A, but suddenly got off at place B on a whim in the middle. Maybe it was the peculiar place name that attracted you, maybe it was the scenery you caught a glimpse of that touched you, in short, you changed the original scheduled journey like this, and then experienced an unexpected trip full of surprises. Place A was your original goal, but place B let you experience a small adventure. Looking back, you said it was an unforgettable derailment experience. Isn't this also the case in many times in life? Focusing on the only goal without distraction is just to fulfill the original journey; leaving the preset track, you have the opportunity to discover other scenery.
Quietly return to calm...
There was a period of time when you were in a low mood, and even懒得 open the curtain, looking at the sun outside the window. So you naturally forgot to go and see the marguerite on the windowsill that needs to be watered every day. After I don't know how long, finally one day, you got through the low mood, and also thought of your marguerite. Oh my god, poor flower, is she still alive? You opened the curtain timidly, but saw her swaying in the wind, with a lovely flower face. It turns out that in the past few days, although you forgot to feed her water, God didn't forget to take care of her with rain and dew. Many things are quietly going on outside your sight, and they are quietly arranged by themselves. All things are born and nurtured by heaven, and everything actually doesn't need to be worried about... All you need to do is be yourself well and leave no regrets... Enough.